Success Habit 3 : Learn to fail - and embrace it

"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. "

- Michael "Air" Jordan


As success habits comes to release number 3, special thanks goes out to Gregory for his continous support and all that has been supportive of my success habits series :)

Today's habit is to Learn To Fail


Funny as it sounds, we've been influenced by our surronding that a mistake is bad. This belief comes in many forms which may sound familiar to us ... like...

"C'mon, you can't do such a simple thing?!"

"My gosh, you messed up again!"

Is that really so?


A mistake is truly only bad when one learns nothing from it. Then its a bad mistake.


Successful people never look upon their mistakes as something bad - they see it as a optimum learning oppourtunity.


e.g.


The light bulb was invented after 999 failed attempts ;


successful people says " He found out 999 ways that didn't worked"

not-so-successful people says "He screwed up 999 times"

Don't be afraid to fail, ask yourself what you've learned.


So where does all this leads to? LEARN TO HANDLE RISKS

This is what successful people do, they take calculated risks.

Eg (My own dilemma)


I always wanted to renovate my room by shifting and throwing some stuff away. But these thoguhts held me back...

"What if it looked worst..."

"What if i screw up..."

"What if i damage something..."

Well , one strategy as taught by Mr Dale Carnegie is to ask yourself

1) "What is the worst to happen?" --> I screw up my whole room and it looks like a pig sty

2) "Can i accept that?" --> Yes , i'll just sleep in my living room and work from there

3) Work to improve upon the worst case scenario

*bingo*

I did up my room in 3 days and it looked absolutely gorgeous :)

(Of course you need to be confident about your own abilities before carrying out anything)

Keep in mind before trying anything , make sure it is ethical and abide by your own moral integrity!

"Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation"

-Michael Jordan

Success Habit 2: Be Responsible

Its crucial to know that success habit series does not come in a chronological order , instead it comes in the form of qualities and values which successful personality possesses.

Today's habit is about being responsible. Now that may sound ridiculously simple , and the strange thing is, so many people miss the point .

Being responsible means to take responsibility over your own life. Dont blame that teacher or flame that friend, you - and only you - are responsible for your own life. Can you accept that ?

Well , in most cases , people would "agree" with the above statement . Then he turns to the pile of homework stacked beside his computer desk and sigh "oh my, homework again , school makes me miserable!!"

Did school really made you miserable?

Successful people never blame their situations or friends, they take responsibility over whatever that happens !

Then in the case of the homework , you may argue "But i didnt give myself those homework!" . The answer to that is simple , "What have you done to finish those homework?"

The problem with life is that it is always giving us alot of stuff - like it or not. Sometimes it falls a mountain of oranges on us and we complain.

Heres the deal :

1) Successful people take these oranges, make them into juice , and make money

2) Not-so-successful people trash and kick at the oranges - a mess is made and the oranges are deemed worthless


“Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy.” - Wayne Dyer

Success Habit 1 : HOW?

Success Habit will be a thing i'll try to include in my blog, it basically shares attributes common to successful people around the world and today's habit is HOW? (yes with the "?" together ^^)

One key difference between successful people and those not-as-successful is their mentality towards issues they face in life.

A successful person asks himself "How can i overcome this problem"

whereas

A not-so-successful person tells himself " I can't overcome this problem"

A typical example would be

2 students from the same class had a whole lot of homework to do within what seemed like a ridiculously short period of time.

The successful student's mentality is "How can i finish my homework in X time? "

The not-so-sucessful student's is "This teacher is crazy, its impossible to finish so much homework in X time!"

In general , this quote sums it all up :

"
Some people see things happen
Some people ask why things happen
Some people find out why things happen
Some people make things happen
"

What is Success to you?

Today's topic is something that has recieved much controversy over the decades . When it comes to the term "success" , various people have differents definition of what it means to "make it" .

Success - in my opinion - has 5 very important factors revolving around it at all times.

[Factor 1] : The WHAT

What is success ?

[Factor 2] : The WHY

Why do you consider [Factor 1] to be such ?

e.g. Who gave you the impression or what gave you the impression

[Factor 3] : The HUH

huh? Is that really "making it" ? Are there alternatives?

[Factor 4] : The HOW

How am i suppose to reach success? How many strategies do i have?

[Factor 5] : The DO

DO IT! How many methods have i tried? Have i given myself the most chances to be successful? Am i a passive man whom sticks to ways I feel can "make it" ? How many alternatives have i tried?

Many people whom i observe nowadays are doing next to nothing to become successful because they do not know what they want .

So heres the most important three questions i hope you take into consideration (even if you dont understand the above, please take these three questions back with you)

What is success to you ?

What have i done to make sure i will become successful ?

What am i doing to make sure i will become successful ?

"It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But above all, try something." - Franklin D. Roosevelt

"Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly." - Robert F. Kennedy

“The poor, the unsuccessful, the unhappy, the unhealthy are the ones who use the word tomorrow the most” - Robert T. Kyosaki